You’re going to die one day. And so are they.

The ones who shake their heads and say,“You broke the rules.”“You’re getting old.”“Admit it.”“Complain, like everybody else does.”

No.

I’m not doing that.I’m not calling my fatigue “just aging. ”I’m not blaming my lack of energy on my hormones. And I’m not going to pretend my aches are just part of some inevitable decline.

Because that story? That’s a trap.

And people love it—because it gets them off the hook.

They don’t have to admit their body is screaming because they’ve been living a life that never fit them.

They don’t have to reckon with the fact that their exhaustion isn’t age—it’s misalignment.

So instead, they say,“I’m getting old.” “That’s why I don’t have energy.” “That’s why I’m not motivated anymore.”

But I’ve seen the truth.

You’re supposed to feel good. With energy. With vitality. With clarity. With bounce. Even in your 70s. Your 80s. Your 90s.

This isn’t wishful thinking. This is physiology.

But it won’t happen if you keep borrowing the rules of people who gave up on themselves.

If someone hears you say, “I’m exhausted,” and their first response is, “Well, that’s aging”—They are not safe for your truth. They cannot hold your vision.

I’ve had people say that to me. I opened up—shared honestly that I was tired, that I was stressed—and they smirked.“Yeah… that’s just getting older.”

No. That’s just being surrounded by people who never learned how to own their lives.

Because that’s what this is about: ownership.

Saying “I’m getting old” is often code for:

“I don’t want to confront the fact that I’ve been living someone else’s version of life for decades……and changing it now would mean grieving who I thought I had to be.”

And I get it. That grief is real.

But I refuse to be part of the club that avoids it. I’d rather feel the grief and come out the other side alive.

Because here’s the deal: You can’t reclaim vitality without reclaiming authorship. You can’t feel electric in your body while living a lie. You can’t heal if you’re still cosigning someone else’s limitations.

So let’s tell the truth:

You’re not tired because you’re old.

You’re tired because you’ve outgrown the life that no longer fits you. And admitting that—fully, fiercely—is where it begins.

And here’s what no one talks about: It’s not enough to own your life.You have to surround yourself with people who own theirs too. Because if you don’t, you’ll start absorbing their avoidance without even realizing it.

That’s the doorway. That’s the healing entrance. And if you walk through it, everything changes.